As I sit there watching the box set of Supernatural, I am on season 7 episode 4 called, Defending your life. It is about the Egyptian God Osiris who snatches people who have carried around their guilt due to harming others even though that they have paid for their crime. He then goes onto bring those victims to them and then they are killed. Before long Dean Winchester (such a hottie) has to go before the judge who is the God, with his brother Sam defending him (such a sweetie). The God then proceeds to reveal to Dean of his guilt. This episode took to me, and it got me thinking about how much stress we carry around is guilt. Guilt has to be one of the biggest stresses and probably the most heaviest of non physical punishments that we can carry around. It can affect our bodies physically, either by over eating, under eating or even self harm. It can change our attitudes towards our families and friends and most importantly to ourselves. Guilt is a form of slow and long-term destruction if we do not recognise or if we do, do something about it.
Guilt. Why do we have it? In a nutshell we feel incomplete. Not having the family we wanted, job or and career, our physical appearance. How does it come about? Possibly the failure to do something about it or that we gave up a little two soon. Either way the guilt is a real problem and it is something that in order to have a more peaceful and fulfilling life needs to be dealt with straight away.
Dealing with guilt can be hard, at first you first got to acknowledge that there is guilt. Sometimes you can feel guilty for having guilt, see how guilt can pile up. There is only one thing that you can really do and that is to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for all the things that you did do and didn’t do. Forgive yourself for blame when it wasn’t your fault. We sometimes get so use to and acceptance of blame that we become accustomed to it and don’t recognise it for what it is.
Knowing yourself is so important when self-healing. To start the process and to get on with your life, we tend to rush things. It is best to start of efficient and slow. To begin with, write down all the things that you feel guilty about and one by one, or two by two work on that list. Some will be easier than others and some will be quite hard.
Freeing yourself from guilt might be to seek forgiveness from others. Saying sorry to them for things that you have done or didn’t do. And remember to say sorry to yourself, for putting unnecessary pressure and blame on yourself, instead of facing the things that you have to do and then acting on it.
Look into the mirror and really have a good look at yourself and say sorry. Look at your eyes, your nose, your skin. How you hold your head, your stance, and really take in your own presence and get comfortable with you. Start ticking of the list of apologies you have to make to yourself and believe in them. If there are any that you can still change, like lose the weight and become the size you want to be. Work on your career or be a better person. Aim for that, by taking one step at a time.
It is time to get rid of guilt. Your life will change for the better and you will be surprised the changes that will be made.